What Is Your Why?

What Is Your Why?

What is your why? 

What is your purpose?

What makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning?

What makes you feel alive?

What inspires you?

What skills, talent or message do you want to share?

What makes you feel stellar?

These can be tough questions to answer or even think about. We live such busy lives. Rushing around. Getting ready for work, getting to work, being busy at work, coming home from work, thinking about work, resting from work so we can do it all again tomorrow. It can be a challenge to balance work, family commitments and have time for those activities big or small that make us feel inspired and alive!

Work is important, yes absolutely. We all have bills to pay, and work can be a major source of purpose and passion too.

If we’re not careful or consciously aware though, we run the risk of always prioritising work and not prioritising ourselves.

This can be especially dangerous if you work for someone else and can easily be replaced.

If you run the risk of burn out, stress and illness because of a fast paced lifestyle with no time for self care, rest and recuperation it’s only you and your family who will suffer in the long run.

One way to avoid this is to prioritise self care. Many people think self care is all about eating healthy food and making time for long, luxurious baths. These are important and fun too!

However, I believe that by spending time thinking about the above questions, regularly reminding ourselves of our purpose, passions we develop a practice, create a habit of making time for those activities.

What Is Your Why?

What Is Your Why?

So many people rush through their lives. By the time they’re 40, 50 they’ve spent so long ignoring their passions that it can be difficult to remember them.

It can be a 4 step process.

  1. Identify an activity, a situation, a person that helps you feel your passion, purpose, pleasure.
  2. Find time to start doing it.
  3. Commit to doing it everyday.
  4. Notice any changes in how you feel?

What is your why? 

What is your purpose?

What makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning?

What makes you feel alive?

What inspires you?

What skills, talent or message do you want to share?

What makes you feel stellar?

What Is Your Why?

What Is Your Why?

WHAT IS MY WHY?

I work from a holistic perspective. In my business at my Wellness centre I offer massage, yoga, mindfulness, therapy. Online I offer Cognitive Behvaioural Therapy as well as Womens Intimacy and Relationship coaching.

These are all activities and treatments that I offer myself too. I book a massage every month (my husband and I regularly massage each other). I’m on my yoga mat everyday. I meditate every morning and evening. I practice mindfulness throughout my day and model it to my kids. My relationship with my husband is a priority.

I know these are all important for my mental, emotional, physical and spiritual wellbeing. My wellbeing affects those around me too, my husband, children, friends, family, clients and everyone I meet.

Mind, body and soul. I have to apply my work to my life.  From my own experience how I’m feeling mentally (my attitude and mindset) affects my emotions, energy levels and physical wellbeing. I haven’t always been consistent in this approach. When I started to go too fast, be too busy I suffered. My mind, body and soul suffered.

What Is Your Why?

What Is Your Why?

After my dad passed away I started to experience anxiety. It was relatively mild, ongoing anxiety. It felt so frightening and uncomfortable for me as I had always been a very calm person for the previous 32 years! Anxiety and other physical, mental and emotional reactions are a normal response to grief and loss.

I also developed cramps and food intolerances. IBS, irritable bowel syndrome. There is a strong mind, gut connection and I was experiencing it first hand.

I slowly realised though that aside from not setting time aside to process the emotions I was feeling, the stress around death and loss of a parent, I was too busy looking after a newborn and not spending anytime prioritising myself and my own self care. Even when I become aware of my behaviour, I had thoughts and feelings of guilt and feeling selfish.

I ran a story that sounded like this: ‘I’m a new mum. I have to look after my baby. Nobody else can do it and I’m selfish for wanting to run a long bath, book myself a 30 minute massage, go out for dinner, eat a meal slowly and sitting down, or even just taking 10 minutes to breathe slowly!

So I made a conscious decision:

  • I remembered how relaxed and energised I used to feel in my mind, body and soul after a massage and booked one. (There was a massage therapist who lived on my road!)
  • I spent 1 night away from my baby and stayed at my friend’s house. We had dinner, drank some wine, I had a long, long shower and I had a whole night of uninterrupted sleep! (Thank you Ann!)
  • I made a promise to myself everytime I fed my baby (my 3rd baby!) I would meditate.
  • I commited to self care, self love and reminded myself I can’t pour from an empty cup. I asked myself those questions regularly as a reminder.

What is my why? 

What is my purpose?

What makes me want to jump out of bed in the morning?

What makes me feel alive?

What inspires me?

What skills, talent or message do I want to share?

What makes me feel stellar?

My replies and reasons will be different from yours. We are all unique individuals and have to unapologetically find our own why. Our own purpose, passion and pleasure. It’s vital that you, me and your woman on the street always remember to identify your purpose and find the time for it.

What Is Your Why?

What Is Your Why?

Thank you for reading!

So, I’m curious. What makes you feel stellar? I’d love to know!

Feel stellar!

FREE CBT & Mindfulness mini video series: Join the friendly Stellar Wellness community.

free cbt video series