WHY ARE RELATIONSHIPS SO IMPORTANT TO US?
The above quote is one of my favourites by Ester Perel.
I asked Sarah Zuniga about her thoughts about relationships. You can also find more information about her message here: https://simplicitymagnified.com
“My name is Sarah Zuniga creator of Simplicity Magnified. I am a wife and a fur mom of two. I enjoy spending quality time with family and friends.
I enjoy a deep conversation with over some strong coffee. As I’ve grown older, relationships have become so much more important to me than ever before.
I want to share ideas and tips on how to cherish and grow in relationships that we are all in starting today.
I feel like my husband doesn’t fully understand what I’m feeling half the time only because he’s growing in the department of being more aware of how I’m feeling.
I definitely find it to be important to divvy up chores, however, I am a stay at home wife and my husband works hard in the sun all day. Typically what I do, is on the weekends, I ask him to help with cleaning up after our meals together or throwing in a load of laundry for me to get later.
Seeing that my husband works pretty much all day, we spend a lot of time together. So I don’t feel like I need a lot of alone time. However, if I have been around a lot of people for a while, I do absolutely need alone time to recharge.
I love being outdoors, so I think the thing I would love to spend my day doing would be taking a hike or going to a park to just relax and hang out together.
I prefer to stay in on most weekends. I am not much of a social butterfly, so staying home and watching movies and eating pizza is pretty ideal. I am a homebody by all means.
I absolutely believe my husband and I share the same values. I have found that some things are either changing or we are getting to a point in our marriage where values are changing, and we are bouncing ideas off of each other. So I think that is always evolving.
I think that finances should definitely be together. I married him and he married me. We went from being two single people to a joined married couple. I think l everything should become joined to avoid any misunderstandings, and questions about where what money went where and why. It’s also a great way to learn to do things together and figure them out together.
I would love to live in the mountains or in the middle of a forest. To be one with nature and less “city” is ideal.
The kind if vacation I would enjoy most would be going somewhere new and experiencing new things. Wandering and exploring different places is all I really look forward to on vacations.
I do want kids. We are at a point in our “trying ” where we are leaving it up to God. He knows when the best time is for us to have a child. And if not, we’ll go from there.
I think physical chemistry is important to a certain extent. It is definitely not everything but there has to be some sort of attraction to the person you plan to build a life with.
Something homemade and well thought out would be the best gift my spouse could give me.
I have been out of the country once for a missions trip. Other than that, when I think about it, I get anxiety. I’m not sure why other than the fact that it’s not MY country. I would love to experience being out of the country but not sure if it would happen any time soon.
The main way I show affection is by being of service to whoever I am showing love.
Mine and my husband’s relationship with God through Jesus is the focal point of our marriage. Without Him, I’m not sure how our marriage would stay strong.
I don’t think there is anything specific that my spouse or I say to resolve an argument. We will typically disagree and then let it settle and then come back outside of emotions and speak logically. Then we try to figure out a way to avoid the same disagreement in the future.
As I’ve grown older, physical fitness has become something that is quite important now. The ability to take care of the body, mind and soul is a blessing and if we overlook that, then not only are we personally affected but so are those around us.
I have learned that just being there for my spouse when he’s sad is enough.
When I am shown that I matter and I am important is when I still feel the most loved.
I feel like my voice is not being heard, and I feel demeaned when I am interrupted.
I feel like my exes were lessons learned, and I try not to think of the person, but only the lesson.
When I am down or depressed I want to be reminded of my importance, that my feelings are valid, but also encouragement to come out of being down.
If I could do anything for work and not worry about money I would find out what people need help with the most and do what I can to help them with those big or small tasks.
My relationship with my dad is very open and at times emotional. My relationship with my mom is very instructional and direct.
I do not like being the centre of attention I typically will stand back and observe and figure out where I would most likely be comfortable and usually spend know the rest of my time in that comfortable spot.
I think the way that I feel towards my spouse’s ex-girlfriends is grateful. I think that he is a different person after those relationships and he learned a lot from those relationships so, in essence, they helped to shape him and change him to be the man I know today.
I like to spend my free time thinking of ways to bless other people and make them smile.”